Getting Fired

The MacKay reading is an interesting insight into the reality of how overcoming rejection can lead to great success. Nobody can, nor should, stay in job forever; somebody has to be fired. Although the reading is focused on those who have been fired, it does open with insight from Donald Trump as to how it is to do the firing. Both sides of the predicament are difficult. Feeling rejected is never easy and being the one to inflict that feeling is not comfortable either. Donald Trump said that “Whether you do it viciously or nicely, that person will always hate you” (We Got Fired!).

At some point in our lives, we will be rejected. We may not be fired from a job, but we may not get to lead a project we want or get a promotion we feel we deserve. The way to handle rejection is to simply take it as a learning tool and move on without any resentment of bitterness.

Don’t Wallow In Failure

When you are rejected, it is natural to turn that inward to see where the fault lies. Being rejected “doesn’t say you’re bad. It says somebody thinks you’re not good enough” (We Got Fired!). We live in a competitive society where it is necessary to always be on top of our game. When somebody else gets what should be ours, internalizing the situation seems natural.

Having never been fired from a job, it was somewhat difficult for me to relate to the personal antidotes throughout the reading until I reflected on one little word . . . rejection. We all feel rejected at one point in our lives and it is how we react to the rejection that helps define our character.

After graduating from Boise State I began applying for jobs and I quickly realized that everyone with whom I graduated was doing the same thing. I went to a few interviews and as I was walking in the door, inevitably one of my former classmates were walking out. Then the “perfect job” opened and had everything I was looking for. I came out of my interview feeling good; so good in fact that I preceded to tell not only my friends and family of the possible job but also my employer.

The next week I received a call and was told they hired somebody else. I was devastated. Now I had to tell everyone I had told about this job that I didn’t get the position. Just the thought of this was bringing me down because I really felt this job was going to be a good move for me.

I continued to bartend while looking for other employment and felt more motivation and drive to get out there in the workforce than I had prior to this job opportunity. I began networking and changed the scope of what I was looking for. Because of the previous rejection, I was determined to find the right fit for me.

Soon afterwards I had a wonderful opportunity to interview with Paul, the HR Director for a company moving its corporate office to Boise. Paul called me in for another meeting and he gave me a job offer. He indicated that the opportunity for advancement in that position was slim but I could have the job if I wanted it. However, there was another position available he felt I would be better suited for but they had others to interview before a decision would be made regarding that position. Risking the fear of rejection again, I turned down the original job offer and threw my name in the hat for the second position.

In the end I got the second job and am doing more than I thought I would be doing just a few years out of school. I get to travel, make recommendations to the pension committee, present to small and large groups, and I am working in programs that HR professionals typically wait years to work on, or so I was told in school.

The first rejection was truly a blessing in disguise. How do I know this? It turns out that just a few months ago I hired the woman who took “my job” a few years ago and she has recounted for me on many occasions horror stories of her previous employer and wishes she never got that job. Hind sight is always 20/20.

MacKay has noted thirteen tips to beat rejection but I think we all have our own personal arsenal of weapons to draw on during trying situations. Inherently, we all have the drive to overcome obstacles and look to better pastures. If you have strength and believe in yourself, overcoming rejection is obtainable. Great leaders are those who can make lemonade out of lemons. (We Got Fired!)

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